Kris asks:   I have met a man that I love, and am planning on spending the rest of my life with. We have had some great adventures together, yet I am more experienced in sexual nature.   I do know that he would be interested in having a fmf experience... but i don't want to share him :(   I do know that he would be happy just fucking me for the rest of his life, we totally satisfy each other, but at the same time that i want to be selfish, i don't want him to feel lacking for experience, and i want him to know what it's like, cuz i know it's fun!   Any advice? Should I arrange something for him as a surprise, if i do, should i include myself? (I'm not sure how fun it would be for me to watch him fuck someone else...) what to do?? .

We like how well you've already thought this through, and that you have your boyfriend's happiness at heart (and the fact that you complimented us in a separate email).   There are a couple different questions here, and we want to address them one at a time.  Though Jayme would like to be self-serving and suggest herself as part of the deal, we have opted instead for a more measured approach.  Hope we don't seem like prudes.  

1)   Being unsure if you would like to see him with someone else seems reasonable enough.   We were too.   In our case, we loved it.   Our worries about jealousy went away immediately as the excitement of the moment and the thrill of seeing the other pleasured took over.   We both have had a couple experiences, though, in which we wanted our partner to stop and pay a little more attention to us (and we did), but we've never completely freaked out.   I suppose what made the 3somes (and moresomes) exciting without the jealousy is that we were all in it together.   If it is a possibility that it might be fun for you, too, then setting something up with knowledge that you'll take it one step at a time (and it will stop the moment anyone gets uncomfortable) would be a good idea.     Kind of an exploration for the both of you.   If there is no possibility that you would like to be involved, your scenario might work.   We know people who enjoy doing things separately (though for us, that would defeat the purpose).   Given that the imagination is often more powerful than reality, though, the visions you may get by not seeing it may be worse than those you will get by seeing it.   Make sense?  If you are there and you have an agreement, you would be able to stop it.    

2)   Surprise!   We love spontaneity and we love surprises.   But...(always a but), in our case the surprise would be something we have already talked through. So if we had already discussed having a threesome with someone and one of was surprised with that threesome, it could be fun.   Without talking about it beforehand, there could be problems.   There is always the possibility he wouldn't like it without you. The closest to that situation we've had was when we decided to try different room swapping.   Neither of us could fully get into it.   We like watching and experiencing each other too much.    

Let us know   how it goes,  

MSE asks (and try to pronounce that):  I want to start off by showing my wife off, maybe at a XXX movie theater.  Maybe she can watch someone masturbate.  Maybe she can show her breast while watching.  Here is where I need help.  Does anybody know of a good theater in the Orange County (CA) area that is safe and clean?  Thank you for your help.

Good question, MSE.  So good, we don’t have an answer.  Anyone out there know?  Anyone know of any good guides to such things?  You have the right idea about finding a clean and couple friendly place.  From our limited experience, some are places that inspire adventure; others are like a bus station (the clientele as well as the floors).  Somehow, dried up spooge and creepy guys grabbing themselves don’t set the mood I think you’re looking for.

Here’s what your idea has going for it:  you are trying to create a situation that, because of the sexual nature of the place, might lead to a person trying something a little risqué.  Watching and being watched can be great.  When Jayme flashes down in New Orleans (or at the corner bar), it both excites at the moment and provides arousing memories.  In the right circumstances (safety, control) it can be very exciting for everyone.  The only way you could spoil it would be to push too hard.  Have hopes, but no expectations.  Think about what she might like rather than what you want her to like.  Despite what most guys would hope, for instance, Jayme, at least, isn’t aroused in the least if she sees a guy who is alone masturbate in a club.  I think she would rather be doing it.  Good luck.  Keep us posted.